“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill.
We’ve all had times in our lives where we want something. Something that’s not necessarily a tangible thing you can hold in your hand or build with physical objects. Whatever this thing is that you’re working towards has you feeling vulnerable in a way that you’ve never felt before because…
“What if it doesn’t work? What if I fail?”
First of all, recognize that fear of failure is a completely natural human response to the pressure we put on ourselves to succeed. And hear me when I say, “The pressure we put on ourselves,” because it really is just you creating all that pressure and nobody else.
Yes, your spouse, friends, loved ones or business partners may be riding you to make it work, but it’s the validation you’re seeking from them that’s the driving factor. Take that need for validation away and what are you left with?
Your end goal and your drive to succeed.
Life is about preparing for those times that will test us to be great but along the way, this preparation contains a series lessons in humility.
The Fact Is:
In life and in business, we have opportunities every day to fail our way forward and it’s not fun. If we’re afraid of failing we can’t play full out so we end up holding back, playing only 90% because we want to be safe.
Fear of failure, or rather, fear of discomfort – which to me is a better word – is something that paralyzed me for years. What’s comfortable to us, is safe. When something is safe it means that we get to live another day.
But here’s the catch…
Playing it safe leads to complacency and complacency leads to, well…nothing spectacular. And we’re aiming for spectacular here aren’t we?
Getting stuck in this complacency rut means we’re not taking risks, not stepping out of our comfort zone and not trying anything new.
Easy? Yes. Fulfilling? F*ck no!
Trying new things and stepping out of your comfort zone are the cornerstones of making any new venture work. We all know the saying…
“If you want something you have never had, you must be willing to do something you have never done.”
And this means that sometimes you’re going to fall flat on your face. You’re going to embarrass yourself. You’re going to let people down…You are going to FAIL.
But guess what? In every failure there’s a lesson.
Fell flat on your face? Great! Stand up and figure out what you did wrong and try it again.
Embarrass yourself? Too bad. Learn how to laugh at yourself and practice some humility.
Let someone down? That sucks. Figure out what you could have done better and make it your mission to make it right.
So what does this all mean?
It means that through repetition and preparation you can fail your way forward. Meaning – You don’t have the answers until you start taking action in any particular thing. Those actions will be met with “wins” and “losses” because that’s the game.
My WAKEUP call today is this: once we embrace the fear of failure that holds us back and start to see it as just another building block to add to the construction of our dream, it starts being a little less scary.
Think about it for a minute. Maybe, just maybe, life and achieving your dreams, isn’t that difficult. It’s just what we perceive it to be.
I’d love to hear from you.
All my best,