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We Are All Insignificant

We are all insignificant

Over the past few weeks, I’ve seen nonstop information on the solar eclipse. Everywhere from social media to the news to radio to newspapers were talking about it – and for good reason. Which is why I was so surprised to hear certain people saying they wouldn’t be watching or that they didn’t care about it. First of all, it’s a big f-ing deal. Second of all, nobody is too cool for a solar eclipse, so get over yourself.

BUT if you’re anything like me, you made sure to make the time to watch in awe as the moon moved across the sun. I mean, how often do you get to see something so monumental?

It really puts things in perspective…and that’s kind of the point of my latest WAKEUP Call

Today we’re going to talk about how grossly insignificant we are even though we take ourselves so goddamn seriously.

There’s such order in the universe. Scientists and astronomers will be studying this eclipse for years, learning about the sun and the origins of the universe. There’s so much information they’ll be able to derive from their studies all to build a bigger knowledge base to further our understanding of the universe.

Based on their studies and calculations they were able to let millions of people know how and when and where to watch this incredible phenomenon. I mean, this thing lasts as long as a horse race – just a snap of the fingers, and it’s over. Just like that. Yet millions of people gathered to watch and share in this brief moment together.

If the moon moving in line with the sun, covering our planet in a giant shadow isn’t enough to make you realize how small you are, you might need to get over yourself.

If we weren’t subconsciously aware of our insignificance, that we are tiny little specks of sand, we wouldn’t be attracted to something that grandiose, right? There would be no context for it. No context for how vast our universe really.

Not getting it yet? Let me give you some perspective.

There are more stars in the sky than there are grains of sand on this Earth. That’s more stars than all the world’s beaches and deserts combined.

Feel insignificant yet?

So the WAKEUP Call for me watching the eclipse was, “Have a Kit-Kat, take a break, and stop taking yourself so goddamn seriously. Yourself, your inner dialogue or opinions or ego, your image, your brand all of it.” Just stop.

Here’s where I’m going with all of this…

When we’re drinking our own Kool-Aid, and we’re buying into our own ego, that’s when we end up taking ourselves too seriously, either for good or for bad.

What do I mean by this?

On the one hand, we can take credit for things when they go well for us or when we have a breakthrough or a business success. We indulge in the feeling of success.

Conversely, if things don’t go the way we want, we beat ourselves up, and we wrap up our whole identity and our value and our perception of our value in that failure, in that thing that is completely outside of us and our ultimate control.

I can remember for many years my identity was very closely attached, good, bad, or ugly, to how my business was doing. Then after a lot of mindful internal dialogue, I had a WAKEUP call and realized, “I am not my business. I am not hobby. I am not my job.”

It’s a bit of a mind-bender to think about it, but I’ve found a way to help myself wrap my mind around the more complex issues, emotions, feelings, and questions, and I’d like to share it with you…maybe it’ll help you too.

Journaling.

I know. You were expecting something way bigger, fancier, and complex. But that’s it, and I’ll tell you why.

Journaling is where I’m able to separate my emotions and thoughts and feelings from reality in a much more consistent way. As a result, I can keep my thoughts at bay. And if you’ve read more than one of my blogs you know one of my favorite sayings, “You can’t keep a bird from landing on your head, but you can keep it from building a nest there,” and journaling helps to keep those thoughts from building those giant nests, so to speak. Thoughts become things.

I used to rail against that overly simplistic way of interpreting how, “Thoughts become things,” Case and point…

If you come home grouchy and angry and you have a dog, there’s no denying that your dog is going to greet you with the same unconditional love every time. But here’s the kicker… your furry friend will very quickly begin to mirror your energy.

Kids are the same way, as are most people.

The point is that while we are so small and insignificant in the grand scheme of the universe, we’re still incredibly powerful.

Now let’s take it a step further…stay with me here…

To the degree that we take ourselves too seriously and believe we are more significant than we actually are, is the same degree to which we also underestimate the power that we have.

In other words, we are just as powerful as we are insignificant. Seems counterintuitive but it’s true and here’s why…

If words matter than thoughts definitely matter and if thoughts definitely matter where do thoughts come from?

What is sponsoring your thoughts?

That’s the million dollar question.

Contemplating that question helps us with getting clear on what we want and what we don’t want. It helps us with getting clear on our intentions and making sure we’re aligned with a set of values that are in line with and represent the highest version of ourselves. The version that truly represents the lifestyle, the abundance, the love, the acceptance, the fulfillment, the sense of purpose that we want to see in ourselves and in others.

Without conscious effort on setting those intentions, our thoughts, like a boat without a rudder,  will continue to arbitrarily bump along and exist in a reactive state, and that is just no way to live.

You’ve got to get clear on what your intentions are because if you don’t, the sponsoring thoughts eventually become things. Remember. Thoughts become things. Thoughts matter. Words matter. Words carry and pack a punch.

So the question becomes, “When are you going to embrace your power?” Truly embrace and appreciate the impact of what you have to say the power of your voice and your opinion.

Think about it. There are things that we casually say in a passive way that we don’t think much of, but someone may carry those words and that feeling with them for a lifetime.

And if that’s the case, can we really afford not to take a little time out to self-analyze and assess our internal dialogue. What are the internal themes gong through your head each day? Where do they come from?

It’s not about changing them; it’s just about acknowledging them.

Journaling simply helps you to separate your thoughts and feelings from reality, and in that space you can be much more mindful, caring, empathetic, caring, patient, creative, and overall, more powerful because in the grand scheme of things, no matter what’s bothering you becomes insignificant in comparison to the vastness of the universe. The first world problems go back into the first world cookie jar, and whatever problem or pet peeve you have begins to fade.

It comes down to having the discipline to build the environments, finding the right people, forming the right habits, whatever it takes to set ourselves up to be our best every day.

But it all starts with remembering….

We are all just tiny pieces of sand on the shore.

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4 comments

  1. jean 28 August, 2017 at 21:27 Reply

    WE may be insignificant and we may not be. Maybe as one considers the size of the universe we may be.
    But as one considers our value we are greater. That leads one to ponder…..what value? and from where does it originate…how does it manifest itself? is it real?
    Questions that have been asked and answered.
    I do not agree with some of the thoughts, or meditations you are putting forth in some of your trainings. Some of which are more religious (and not a religion I adhere to)and I can’t tell when you’re meaning spiritual and religious as synonyms…etc Read Agustine

  2. Susan Lewis 29 August, 2017 at 19:57 Reply

    Hi there Jay

    Mothers are powerful influences. A mother that connects where the ‘life force drains’ are on her enables her children to take one step closer in establishing their own self-valued identity. This reply is in response to the pebbles on the beach covering the sand grains.

    Recently my mother stated in her 81 year old wisdom…. “Words are curses.” Now before anyone gets their dander up the environment the people around you have been influenced within their lives may impact and definitely influence you. IF you let that be.

    Yesterday I saw a video. The topic was on a person whose left brain was damaged via a stroke. The speakers influence was such that the words… “You are responsible for the energy you bring into this space.” [Jill Bolte Taylor]

    Today this was added to by another person who built upon the first speaker. ” Be responsible for the energy you bring into the room……into the actions of doing a clearing in her life of some people whose energy was not supportive of who I wanted to be in the world [Opera Winfrey].

    And my mother as I grew up… “Susan your are responsible for who you choose to allow your light to shine on.”

    Mum went on to state “Be adaptable. Move on. The wave that moves the pebbles away also transports the sand to a new place.”

    Heck I’ve just realised this was stated at the beginning of 1974 just before she moved away from the family home…. and proceeded to later to get that divorce.

    My mother was looking for solutions to life energy drainage challenge.

    Thank you for sharing Jay

    Sincerely

    Susan Lewis

  3. Samantha Tan 10 September, 2017 at 17:50 Reply

    “We are all just tiny pieces of sand on the shore.”

    Love the ending.

    Also reminds us that after all the effort in chasing the material things in the world, we forgot each of us is part of the connected whole.

    What really makes us happy could be as simple as a book, a friend, birds, trees and a soul mate.

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